Ruby trails off, for a moment, resting her forearms across her knees, and sighs. "Sometimes we need to figure out whether it's about us or them. I have some people who I am still trying to totally forgive, even though logically I get that they've changed, or whatever. That they're trying, I guess."
She chews the inside of her cheek. "I think the person who needs forgiveness can't expect people to forgive them. We don't get to expect it or feel owed forgiveness. We can want it, but it's not something we have an inherent right to. I mean, obviously it depends on what happened. If I spilled orange juice on someone, I'd kind of hope they'd get over that pretty easily. With the big hurts, I mean— sometimes the person who was hurt needs to forgive someone for their own sake, because they're someone they love, and because forgiving is part of the healing."
An apologetic shake of her head. "Sorry, I'm not saying you have to forgive anybody, I'm just kind of trying to figure it out and doing that out loud is easier while my heads all kind of scrambled up, still. Would, um— would you like to talk about it? Or do you need to talk about him? I'm not exactly going anywhere," Ruby adds with a bit of a wry smile.
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Ruby trails off, for a moment, resting her forearms across her knees, and sighs. "Sometimes we need to figure out whether it's about us or them. I have some people who I am still trying to totally forgive, even though logically I get that they've changed, or whatever. That they're trying, I guess."
She chews the inside of her cheek. "I think the person who needs forgiveness can't expect people to forgive them. We don't get to expect it or feel owed forgiveness. We can want it, but it's not something we have an inherent right to. I mean, obviously it depends on what happened. If I spilled orange juice on someone, I'd kind of hope they'd get over that pretty easily. With the big hurts, I mean— sometimes the person who was hurt needs to forgive someone for their own sake, because they're someone they love, and because forgiving is part of the healing."
An apologetic shake of her head. "Sorry, I'm not saying you have to forgive anybody, I'm just kind of trying to figure it out and doing that out loud is easier while my heads all kind of scrambled up, still. Would, um— would you like to talk about it? Or do you need to talk about him? I'm not exactly going anywhere," Ruby adds with a bit of a wry smile.