Colin smiles to himself. This is what he's glad for. Finally, there's someone who gets it.

"My experience is pretty limited. I've had one time where it didn't work out, and another time when it did. I wouldn't have expected either partner to understand. I absolutely thought they'd both judge me or find me somehow ruined. Like now they knew this about me, I wasn't sexy anymore. But the first one, the one that found out the wrong way, was so kind. After thinking about it, I went ahead and told the other one beforehand. Not immediately beforehand, just when we knew we were both interested. And he didn't care. I mean, he wasn't happy it happened, but he was fine. And we actually had a good time together.

"And that's all to say, it's going to happen. Your partner is going to be better-equipped, and feel better-equipped, if they know about it beforehand. And if they're not equipped for it at all, you need to know before you start. The last thing you need is a panic with someone there who won't support you."